A Family Legacy that Loves Life

Proverbs 13:
2. A man shall eat good by the fruit of his mouth: but the soul of the transgressors shall eat violence.

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”

We have all heard this idiom, but is it true? It is not true in the sense used in this proverb. Your words can make a mess out of your life – they can be the catalyst that causes the stones to fly – or they can be the means for good.

Look at this absolutely wonderful statement from Peter.

“For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.” (1 Peter 3:10-11)

Look at the incentive that Peter sets before us, “love life and see good days.” Doesn’t everyone want that? Here’s how you get it.

“Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.” (1 Peter 3:8-9)

Now this fruit of our mouth is not just returning good for good, but also good for evil. Our response must always be good, no matter what we are receiving. Now our proverb indicates that those who transgress with their mouth got the opposite results. Why is this true? It is true because we live in a moral universe.

“For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil. And who is he that will harm you, if ye be followers of that which is good?” (1 Peter 3:12-13)

This is the essence of faith – trusting God and believing his promises. “But wait,” you say, “I see lots of bad things happening to good people and the wicked doing very well for themselves. Where is God and his promises?” Peter addresses this objection and acknowledges that it can happen, but its not the rule.

“But and if ye suffer for righteousness' sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled; But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear: Having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ.” (1 Peter 3:14-16)

Peter even concludes his recognition of our occasional suffering with words of hope, “that they may be ashamed.” Our faithfulness is the means that the Holy Spirit uses to turn their hearts. And this is what it is all about. We also became ashamed when we realized that our evil caused another to suffer. It’s not too much to ask us to endure.

“For it is better, if the will of God be so, that ye suffer for well doing, than for evil doing. For Christ also hath once suffered for sins, the just for the unjust, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh, but quickened by the Spirit:” (1 Peter 3:17-18)

And this is what a Family Legacy is all about – fulfillling our calling and inheriting a blessing.

“Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.” (1 Peter 3:9)

A Family Legacy’s Grace of Goodness

Proverbs 12:
2. A good man obtaineth favour of the LORD: but a man of wicked devices will he condemn.

The description good man immediately caught my eye and I was reminded of Jesus’ interaction with the Rich Young Ruler.

“And, behold, one came and said unto him, Good Master, what good thing shall I do, that I may have eternal life? And he said unto him, Why callest thou me good? there is none good but one, that is, God: but if thou wilt enter into life, keep the commandments.” (Matthew 19:16-17)

I have heard more than one sermon on this text as an argument that we should call no one good. Also, I have been corrected by others (who have used this as a proof text) when I have called someone good. Has anyone else had this experience? But what do we do with this proverb? Is the good man commended here an impossibility? Does this contradict what Jesus was saying? I don’t think so. Look carefully at what Jesus is being asked, “what good thing shall I do, that I may have eternal life?” It becomes obvious that this young man is asking a question about merit. How can I earn eternal life? Jesus’ response sort of goes like this (paraphrasing):

“Since you framed your question in the context of merit, the answer is: everyone fails! You see, in terms of merit, only God qualifies. Now why was it that you called me good? By the way, since you think eternal life can be earned, how are you doing at keeping the commandments?”

The Rich Young Ruler was trying to establish his own righteousness apart from faith. This was a common problem of the Jews.

“For they being ignorant of God's righteousness, and going about to establish their own righteousness, have not submitted themselves unto the righteousness of God. For Christ is the end of the law for righteousness to every one that believeth.” (Romans 10:3-4)

The Rich Young Ruler claims to have kept all the commandments from his youth, but he suspects that more is required. Jesus agrees that more is required and gives him one more commandment.

“The young man saith unto him, All these things have I kept from my youth up: what lack I yet? Jesus said unto him, If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come and follow me.” (Matthew 19:20-21)

This commandment directed the young man to faith in Jesus – the one thing he lacked – and was very similar to this commandment.

“And this is his commandment, That we should believe on the name of his Son Jesus Christ, and love one another, as he gave us commandment.” (1 John 3:23)

Now this directive from Jesus was not unique to this Rich Young Ruler. Jesus had made the same request of another (probably) rich man and he obeyed without question.

“And as Jesus passed forth from thence, he saw a man, named Matthew, sitting at the receipt of custom: and he saith unto him, Follow me. And he arose, and followed him.” (Matthew 9:9)

Matthew was a tax collector, like Zacchaeus, and most likely was also rich.

“And, behold, there was a man named Zacchaeus, which was the chief among the publicans, and he was rich.” (Luke 19:2)

Matthew left everything and followed Jesus immediately and it looks like all the other disciples did the same thing.

So, when the topic is merit, goodness is impossible among us fallen creatures. But in another context, the context of grace, goodness is possible.

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.” (Galatians 5:22-25)

What we are seeking to cultivate in a Family Legacy is the goodness that comes from grace, not from merit.

The Role of Humility in a Family Legacy

Proverbs 11:
2. When pride cometh, then cometh shame: but with the lowly is wisdom.

The contrast here between pride and lowliness or humility is the difference between one who trusts in his own resources and one who trusts in God. This same theme is stated over and over again throughout the Scriptures using different illustrations. One example would be widows.

“Now she that is a widow indeed, and desolate, trusteth in God, and continueth in supplications and prayers night and day.” (1 Timothy 5:5)

This widow is identified in the context as someone who has no family – no one at all to care for her – and therefore must trust in God because she has absolutely no resources of her own. This is also why children are used to illustrate this.

“And Jesus called a little child unto him, and set him in the midst of them, And said, Verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven. Whosoever therefore shall humble himself as this little child, the same is greatest in the kingdom of heaven.” (Matthew 18:2-4)

Some think that children are used as an example here because they are innocent or they are examples of faith. No, it’s because they are without any resources and dependent and must look to someone else to supply their needs and so exercise faith in another in this way, just like the widow. Now it becomes easier to see why Jesus spoke of the rich as he did.

“For it is easier for a camel to go through a needle's eye, than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of God. And they that heard it said, Who then can be saved? And he said, The things which are impossible with men are possible with God.” (Luke 18:25-27)

The rich tend to trust in and depend on their resources. They also are tempted to compromise their principles if their resources are jeopardized. It is a trap and they are vulnerable. But feeling self-sufficient is not a necessary condition of the rich. Abraham and Job both were very rich (Bill Gates kind of rich) and they are both held up to us in the Scriptures as examples of faith. On the other hand children and widows can be models of wickedness. The examples are intended to communicate this kind of attitude.

“Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.” (Matthew 5:3)

Being poor in spirit is an attitude of dependence on God. Both Abraham and Job were poor in spirit, even though they were rich. Those who are materially poor are destitute and therefore are presented as a visible illustration of that dependence.

“And he lifted up his eyes on his disciples, and said, Blessed be ye poor: for yours is the kingdom of God.” (Luke 6:20)

These are synoptic texts and say the same thing – the attitude of dependence is that which is blessed, not the condition of poverty.

This attitude of dependence is essential for the success of your Family Legacy. Did you notice how often this attitude is connected with the Kingdom of God? Linking your Family Legacy to the certain success of the God’s Kingdom will require the cultivation of this attitude of dependence.

“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” (Matthew 6:33)

A Family Legacy Through Sacrificial Service

Proverbs 10:
2. Treasures of wickedness profit nothing: but righteousness delivereth from death.

One highly regarded commentator, who will remain unnamed, says about this proverb:

“The most substantial earthly treasures profit nothing.”

And then he gives these two proof texts.

“Labour not to be rich: cease from thine own wisdom. Wilt thou set thine eyes upon that which is not? for riches certainly make themselves wings; they fly away as an eagle toward heaven.” (Proverbs 23:4-5)

“Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal:” (Matthew 6:19)

Now, of course, the proof texts he gives are absolutely true, but do they support the conclusion he draws? I don’t think so. We have already noticed this can be said about the advantages of wisdom.

“Riches and honour are with me; yea, durable riches and righteousness” (Proverbs 8:18)

Now I would have thought that all legitimate blessings flowing from wisdom could be considered profitable. Or what about this?

“The blessing of the LORD, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it.” (Proverbs 10:22)

These verses could be multiplied over and over in both the Old and the New Testament. Can you see how this commentator’s statement actually slanders God? If riches are not profitable, then when God gives them to us they are also valueless. There is no reason for us to thank God for them, because they really are worth nothing – if we were to follow this commentator’s reasoning.

Thankfully there are other ways to interpret this proverb. The contrast being emphasized is between wickedness and righteous. Wickedness is so vain and empty that no amount of money added to it can make its value measure up to righteousness. Conclusion: never sacrifice your integrity and righteousness for money. It’s not worth it.

But what about this commentator’s proof texts? They are both saying the same thing – where are your priorities? If your priority and focus is to be rich, then you are inviting all kinds of temptations and snares. But if your priority is the kingdom of God and his glory through wise sacrificial service to others, then – BINGO! . . .

“The blessing of the LORD, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it.” (Proverbs 10:22)

Sacrificial service to others in the service of God and his kingdom is the stuff of which a lasting Family Legacy is made.

Family Legacy Blessings Through Faithfulness

Proverbs 9:
3. She hath sent forth her maidens: she crieth upon the highest places of the city,
4. Whoso is simple, let him turn in hither: as for him that wanteth understanding, she saith to him,
5. Come, eat of my bread, and drink of the wine which I have mingled.
6. Forsake the foolish, and live; and go in the way of understanding.

Yesterday in chapter 8 we noticed that Wisdom cries out in the public forum. How does she do that? First, she calls out in the creation.

“The heavens declare the glory of God; and the firmament sheweth his handywork. Day unto day uttereth speech, and night unto night sheweth knowledge. There is no speech nor language, where their voice is not heard.” (Psalm 19:1-3)

Wisdom speaks in a language that everyone understands, and she speaks so clearly that no one has an excuse for not understanding.

“For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness; Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them. For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse.” (Romans 1:18-20)

But Wisdom also speaks to everyone through the law because the “work of the law,” the conscience, is written on everyone’s heart.

“For when the Gentiles, which have not the law, do by nature the things contained in the law, these, having not the law, are a law unto themselves: Which shew the work of the law written in their hearts, their conscience also bearing witness, and their thoughts the mean while accusing or else excusing one another;)” (Romans 2:14-15)

How do we know this is true? – Because we observe that people approve what is right and condemn what is wrong – at least in the actions of others. But how do people respond when they themselves do the things that they condemn others for doing? When that happens their conscience shouts to them the goodness of God. How does it do that?

“And thinkest thou this, O man, that judgest them which do such things, and doest the same, that thou shalt escape the judgment of God? Or despisest thou the riches of his goodness and forbearance and longsuffering; not knowing that the goodness of God leadeth thee to repentance?” (Romans 2:3-4)

An historical example of these principles in operation is when the prophet Nathan confronted King David about his sin with Bathsheba.

“And the LORD sent Nathan unto David. And he came unto him, and said unto him, There were two men in one city; the one rich, and the other poor. The rich man had exceeding many flocks and herds: But the poor man had nothing, save one little ewe lamb, which he had bought and nourished up: and it grew up together with him, and with his children; it did eat of his own meat, and drank of his own cup, and lay in his bosom, and was unto him as a daughter. And there came a traveller unto the rich man, and he spared to take of his own flock and of his own herd, to dress for the wayfaring man that was come unto him; but took the poor man's lamb, and dressed it for the man that was come to him. And David's anger was greatly kindled against the man; and he said to Nathan, As the LORD liveth, the man that hath done this thing shall surely die: And he shall restore the lamb fourfold, because he did this thing, and because he had no pity. And Nathan said to David, Thou art the man.” (2 Samuel 12:1-7a)

Notice how Nathan did not teach David any moral principle he didn’t already know. All he did was present a situation that David was ready to quickly condemn and then revealed that he was talking about him. David’s later repentance is recorded in Psalm 51 and it is obvious in that Psalm that it is God’s goodness toward David that brought that repentance.

How can this possibly have any thing to do with building a Family Legacy? Consider this. Wisdom is offering to the simple a bountiful and sumptuous table filled with good things as analogous to getting the good life and understanding. There is no threatening in this context. Sometimes in our attempt to bring up our children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord we choose the path of provoking them to wrath out of a fear of being permissive, i.e., “The floggings will continue until the attitude improves.” Wisdom’s approach, at least in this context, is to encourage with the promise of blessings through faithfulness.

A Do-It-Yourself Family Legacy – Not!

Proverbs 8:
1. Doth not wisdom cry? and understanding put forth her voice?
2. She standeth in the top of high places, by the way in the places of the paths.
3. She crieth at the gates, at the entry of the city, at the coming in at the doors.
4. Unto you, O men, I call; and my voice is to the sons of man.

This is an interesting personification of Wisdom. What is the proverb trying to say by it? I think it is this – Wisdom is not hard to find. It is very public. It can be found everywhere and in everything. This description of Wisdom is very similar to how Moses describes the Law.

“For this commandment which I command thee this day, it is not hidden from thee, neither is it far off. It is not in heaven, that thou shouldest say, Who shall go up for us to heaven, and bring it unto us, that we may hear it, and do it? Neither is it beyond the sea, that thou shouldest say, Who shall go over the sea for us, and bring it unto us, that we may hear it, and do it? But the word is very nigh unto thee, in thy mouth, and in thy heart, that thou mayest do it. See, I have set before thee this day life and good, and death and evil;” (Deuteronomy 30:11-15)

Now the similarity is not that Moses is personifying the Law. He is not. The similarity is that like Wisdom the Law is near us. Moses is describing people who speak something like this: “I love the Law so much I would climb the highest mountain or travel around the world to get it.” This person thinks that the proverb we read on February 2nd . . .

“If thou seekest her as silver, and searchest for her as for hid treasures;” (Proverbs 2:4)

. . . means that he must perform some kind of heroic “I’ll do it myself” work to gain Wisdom. But it doesn’t mean that at all. It means that we must deny ourselves and submit in faith to God. The entire creation shouts this to us every day just like Wisdom does in our proverb. Then why don’t we do it? – Because of our nature. We are like Pogo said in 1971 (in a different context).

"We have met the enemy and he is us"

When God presents to us his creation, or Wisdom, or the Law, or even the Gospel, our sinful response often is, “Thanks God, but I will do it myself,” or, “Thanks for the tip, God, I can take it from here.” Wrong response. It’s not that the response doesn’t require us to do something, it does. But the required response is faith and faithfulness, not, “I’ll do it myself.” This is the context of Paul’ statement of the Gospel when he quotes the above Deuteronomy text.

“But the righteousness which is of faith speaketh on this wise, Say not in thine heart, Who shall ascend into heaven? (that is, to bring Christ down from above:) Or, Who shall descend into the deep? (that is, to bring up Christ again from the dead.) But what saith it? The word is nigh thee, even in thy mouth, and in thy heart: that is, the word of faith, which we preach;” (Romans 10:6-8)

See the Deuteronomy text really is talking about faith, and to remove all doubt Paul goes on to write this familiar text.

"That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed.” (Romans 10:9-11)

So after all this meandering what does this proverb have to do with building a Family Legacy? Simply this. Wisdom, which is so essential for building a Family Legacy is right there shouting at you and calling to you, just like the creation, the law and the Gospel. And it is not calling you to heroic-do-it-your-selfism, but to a faithful embrace of, submission to and obedience to Jesus Christ in his Word.

The Family Legacy’s Protective Wisdom

Proverbs 7:
4. Say unto wisdom, Thou art my sister; and call understanding thy kinswoman:
5. That they may keep thee from the strange woman, from the stranger which flattereth with her words.

In these two verses we have the contrast of two kinds of women. The first is a close relative like ones own sister. This woman, because she is of ones own kind and kindred, appeals to our kindness and natural affection. We protect her person and her honor. We value her presence and promote her wellbeing. It is interesting that wisdom is not here compared to ones wife. Why is that? Most likely it is because the person being exhorted and cautioned is not married, but single. He can’t relate to the affections associated with marriage in his own experience, but he does have relatives that he cherishes.

The second woman is just the opposite. He doesn’t really know her. She is a stranger to him but for some reason she has taken an interest in him. She speaks to him. She flatters him. She makes him feel important and increases his sense of self worth, if for no other reason that she notices him. What would his sister or other close relative say if she observed what was happening? She would become indignant and alarmed and warn him against the designs of such a woman. She sees what is going on and the danger to which he seems to be oblivious. How would he respond to his sister/kinswoman’s counsel? This proverb means nothing to the person who does not value and honor his sister. To such, to compare his sister with wisdom would cause him to say, “Huh?” This proverb assumes a natural affection and bond within the family. But there is something else going on here. While it is necessary it is not sufficient to hate and avoid evil, because our fallen nature is prone to feel an attraction even to those things that we hate.

“For that which I do I allow not: for what I would, that do I not; but what I hate, that do I. If then I do that which I would not, I consent unto the law that it is good. Now then it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me. For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwelleth no good thing: for to will is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not. For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do. Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me. I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me.” (Romans 7:15-20)

If we don’t recognize this battle within us, and our own vulnerabilities, then we are self-deceived. What is necessary is for us to also desire and value that which is good, hence the comparison with ones own sister. This is where a robust Family Legacy that is committed to the Kingdom of God comes in. Your family looks out for your wellbeing and watches your back and you know it and value it and you do the same for them.

A Family Legacy and Self-Government

Proverbs 6:
6. Go to the ant, thou sluggard; consider her ways, and be wise:
7. Which having no guide, overseer, or ruler,
8. Provideth her meat in the summer, and gathereth her food in the harvest.

Here is an interesting admonition. We have already noted in two places (Proverbs 12:1 and 30:2) that a man is considered to be like an animal when he acts without reasonable thought. Here we have the sluggard who not only doesn’t think, he also doesn’t act. The way he lives is worse than the animals and so he is sent to them to learn the importance of acting!

Now we all know that ants don’t think or plan or draw conclusions based on the weather patterns they observe. God created them to do what they do by instinct. Yet the fact that they do them, and their actions are the means for their survival, is an important lesson for us because we can observe and learn and plan. Actions have consequences.

Another interesting observation is that ants are organized into colonies where there is a division of labor, yet they are not directed by a guide, overseer or ruler. Here we are to learn, not that it would be good for us to operate on the basis of instinct, but rather that we need to learn to work on the basis of self-government.

"Men, in a word, must necessarily be controlled either by a power within them or by a power without them; either by the Word of God or by the strong arm of man; either by the Bible or by the bayonet." [Robert Winthrop, Speaker of the U. S. House]

It is not just that we need to show initiative, but that we need to learn to show initiative in doing the right thing. This self-government and self-direction is not only a learned discipline, but it proceeds from a heart and mind directed by God’s Word. This is the parents’ role in building a Family Legacy.

“And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4)

This nurture and admonition of children is for the purpose of maturing them into adults whose self-government is directed by faith in and obedience to the Word of God. This is the stuff of which enduring Family Legacies are made.

A Family Legacy of Discretion

Proverbs 5:
1. My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding:
2. That thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge.

The word discretion [mezimmah], as used here, carries the meaning of “being in charge of ones own decision making, taking responsibility, not impulsive,” such as in: “The decision was left to his own discretion.” In some places this same Hebrew word carries the meaning of evil devices.

“He that deviseth to do evil shall be called a mischievous [mezimmah] person.” (Proverbs 24:8)

The word as used in the context of our proverb today does not allow for these negative implications and Webster’s 1828 Dictionary provides a helpful definition of discretion.

“Prudence, or knowledge and prudence; that discernment which enables a person to judge critically of what is correct and proper, united with caution; nice discernment and judgment, directed by circumspection, and primarily regarding one’s own conduct.”

And where does this discernment of good and evil come from? It comes from the Word of God.

“For when for the time ye ought to be teachers, ye have need that one teach you again which be the first principles of the oracles of God; and are become such as have need of milk, and not of strong meat. For every one that useth milk is unskilful in the word of righteousness: for he is a babe. But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil.” (Hebrews 5:12-14)

It is interesting that discernment is so closely connected with maturity, and this is exactly what we are trying to achieve in our Family Legacy, a next generation does not think and act like children, but like mature men and women.

A Multi-Generational Family Legacy

Proverbs 4:
1. Hear, ye children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding.
2. For I give you good doctrine, forsake ye not my law.
3. For I was my father's son, tender and only beloved in the sight of my mother.
4. He taught me also, and said unto me, Let thine heart retain my words: keep my commandments, and live.

Isn’t this a beautiful picture of multi-generational instruction? Isn’t this what an enduring Family Legacy is all about – passing wisdom on from one generation to the next? And because it is wisdom being passed on, all the benefits that attend wisdom go with it! Now it may be true that your father did not leave you a legacy of wisdom, but that doesn’t need to stop you from starting now! Perhaps in your distant past there was faithful instruction, but it was totally gone by the time of your father. Do not despair. Hezekiah’s father, Ahaz was a wicked king and yet Hezekiah could reach back to his fore fathers, David and Solomon and resurrect righteousness.

“Now . . . Hezekiah the son of Ahaz king of Judah . . . Twenty and five years old was he when he began to reign . . . And he did that which was right in the sight of the LORD, according to all that David his father did. He removed the high places, and brake the images, and cut down the groves, and brake in pieces the brasen serpent that Moses had made: for unto those days the children of Israel did burn incense to it . . . He trusted in the LORD God of Israel; so that after him was none like him among all the kings of Judah, nor any that were before him. For he clave to the LORD, and departed not from following him, but kept his commandments, which the LORD commanded Moses. And the LORD was with him; and he prospered whithersoever he went forth:” (2 Kings 18:1-7a)

Notice that is was not really David and Solomon to which Hezekiah returned, but rather to faith in the LORD God. This is why you can do it too, from whatever moral condition you find yourself and your family, by faith in Jesus Christ and obedience to his commands, because through the power of his resurrection he makes all things new.

Family Legacy – A Benefit in this Life

Proverbs 3:
1. My son, forget not my law; but let thine heart keep my commandments:
2. For length of days, and long life, and peace, shall they add to thee.

One of the aspects of obedience that many overlook is that it has benefits in this life. Too often the primary reasons we give for obeying is, “It is the right thing to do,” or “Because I said so.” These are not the kind of reasons given in this proverb. The reasons given for obeying, not just outwardly, but from the heart, are things that everyone desires: length of days, long life and peace. This theme is repeated throughout the Book of Proverbs

“Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding . . . Length of days is in her right hand; and in her left hand riches and honour. Her ways are ways of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace. She is a tree of life to them that lay hold upon her: and happy is every one that retaineth her.” (Proverbs 3:13,16-18)

Look at this list: happiness, long life, riches, honor, pleasant experiences and peace. These are things that even the wicked desire and seek and often people like us criticize and condemn them for it. But if obedience is the way for the wicked to get the very things they desire, why don’t they obey? - Because they don’t believe it. They believe these benefits come by the exercise of power. The odd thing is that often we don’t believe it either, and this is revealed when we are embarrassed to express any desire for riches and honor. But the Book of Proverbs is not embarrassed to identify these things as desirable and even use them as incentives for doing the right thing. We should too. This is an important way to encourage our children to do the right thing and to encourage them in building a Family Legacy. An enduring Family Legacy is one of those benefits of obedience that is experienced in this life.

A Family Legacy’s Principle of Success

Proverbs 2:
3. Yea, if thou criest after knowledge, and liftest up thy voice for understanding;
4. If thou seekest her as silver, and searchest for her as for hid treasures;
5. Then shalt thou understand the fear of the LORD, and find the knowledge of God.
6. For the LORD giveth wisdom: out of his mouth cometh knowledge and understanding.

These verses are intended to communicate to us the exceeding value of knowledge, understanding and wisdom by comparing it to silver and hidden treasures. This silver and hidden treasure is considered to be so desirable that is to be sought after and searched for. This is not easy to gather low hanging fruit, but rather requires blood, toil, sweat and tears to obtain. But what if a person is so “spiritual” that they do not value silver and hid treasure and would not waste a minute of their time pursuing or preserving either one? To them that’s crass materialism. Well, if they think that, then it would seem that “spiritual” person could not understand what these verses are talking about. If one doesn’t value silver and hidden treasures, how can one value that for which they are the point of comparison?

Think about it. If you are mining silver from the ground, or searching for another kind of hidden treasure, it will take resources, planning, sacrifice, focus, risk and perseverance to be successful. A similar effort is required for obtaining wisdom. You have to apply yourself to the effort. But an interesting thing happens along the way. You find out that your efforts, while necessary, are not sufficient. True wisdom is a gift from God and it begins with the fear of the Lord.

“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: a good understanding have all they that do his commandments: his praise endureth for ever.” (Psalm 111:10)

Do you see how the fear of God and understanding is closely related to obeying his commandments?

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man. For God shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing, whether it be good, or whether it be evil.” (Ecclesiates 12:13-14)

And the New Testament says the same thing.

“And this is his commandment, That we should believe on the name of his Son Jesus Christ, and love one another, as he gave us commandment.” (1 John 3:23)

Here is where ones pursuit of an enduring Family Legacy must begin. The message of the Book of Proverbs is that all success in life flows from this principle.

Wisdom – A Family Legacy for Our Children

Proverbs 1:
1. The proverbs of Solomon the son of David, king of Israel;
2. To know wisdom and instruction; to perceive the words of understanding;
3. To receive the instruction of wisdom, justice, and judgment, and equity;
4. To give subtilty to the simple, to the young man knowledge and discretion.

What a wonderful thing to be able to get instruction from one of the wisest men in the world!

“Behold, I [God] have done according to thy words: lo, I have given thee [Solomon] a wise and an understanding heart; so that there was none like thee before thee, neither after thee shall any arise like unto thee.” (1 Kings 3:12)

And wisdom is the stuff that makes an enduring Family Legacy. Listen to David’s focused desires for Solomon.

“Now the days of David drew nigh that he should die; and he charged Solomon his son, saying, I go the way of all the earth: be thou strong therefore, and shew thyself a man; And keep the charge of the LORD thy God, to walk in his ways, to keep his statutes, and his commandments, and his judgments, and his testimonies, as it is written in the law of Moses, that thou mayest prosper in all that thou doest, and whithersoever thou turnest thyself: That the LORD may continue his word which he spake concerning me, saying, If thy children take heed to their way, to walk before me in truth with all their heart and with all their soul, there shall not fail thee (said he) a man on the throne of Israel.” (1 Kings 2:1-4)

“And thou, Solomon my son, know thou the God of thy father, and serve him with a perfect heart and with a willing mind: for the LORD searcheth all hearts, and understandeth all the imaginations of the thoughts: if thou seek him, he will be found of thee; but if thou forsake him, he will cast thee off for ever.” (1 Chronicles 28:9)

What beautiful counsel from a dying father to his son! And this book of wise proverbs is for us so that we can do the same thing in passing on wisdom to our children for the establishment of an enduring Family Legacy.

The Mother’s Role in a Family Legacy

Proverbs 31:
1. The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him.
2. What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? and what, the son of my vows?

Who is this king Lemuel and who is his queen mother? No one knows for sure but the majority of the speculation is that it is Solomon. Solomon did go by more than one name.

“And David comforted Bathsheba his wife, and went in unto her, and lay with her: and she bare a son, and he called his name Solomon: and the LORD loved him. And he sent by the hand of Nathan the prophet; and he called his name Jedidiah, because of the LORD.” (2 Samuel 12:24-25)

Jedidiah means “beloved of the Lord.” It is speculated that Lemuel, which means “for God,” was an endearing childhood nickname used by his mother, Bathsheba. If all this is true (and we don’t know) then several observations can be made. The first observation is that there can be forgiveness and restoration after adultery. Everyone knows the sinful circumstances surrounding Bathsheba becoming David’s wife. Yet she did become his wife and there was repentance and God blessed the union. The queen mother’s reference to her vow is, I think, a reference to her marriage vows and shows her commitment to them. Second, the fact that she calls her son Lemuel, whether it was Solomon or not, indicates that this mother was raising her son “for God.” This is all the more significant if it is Bathsheba and Solomon because it indicates that with repentance, faith towards God and a commitment to obey him, even relationships that began with the sin of adultery can be reclaimed for God to build a Family Legacy.

“ . . . But where sin abounded, grace did much more abound:” (Romans 5:20b)

However, those of you who think you can manipulate God through the use of perceived loopholes of grace, do not think, “I need a new wife. God will forgive me and we can have a new beginning.” God has this to say about those who say:

“. . . ‘Let us do evil, that good may come?’ whose damnation is just.” (Romans 3:8)

But even if this is not Solomon and Bathsheba the conclusion still holds. And we can also note how this text underscores the importance of mothers bringing up their children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. It is not just the father’s task.

“And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4)

Building a Family Legacy is a joint effort between husband and wife. They both are important. But what if the mother is alone in this task either as a single mother or due to a husband “missing in action?” There is still hope and we find the example of this faithfulness and hope in Timothy’s mother.

“When I call to remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in thee, which dwelt first in thy grandmother Lois, and thy mother Eunice; and I am persuaded that in thee also.” (2 Tim 1:5)

“And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus. All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works. “ (2 Tim 3:15-17)

This is what building a Family Legacy is all about – raising men (and women) of God, thoroughly furnished unto every good work.

A Family Legacy Out of the Depths

Proverbs 30:
1. The words of Agur the son of Jakeh, even the prophecy: the man spake unto Ithiel, even unto Ithiel and Ucal,
2. Surely I am more brutish than any man, and have not the understanding of a man.
3. I neither learned wisdom, nor have the knowledge of the holy.

The last two chapters of the Book of Proverbs are considered to be appendices because they are wise sayings by someone other than Solomon. Who are Agur, Ithiel and Ucal? No one knows, but we are presented with an instructor, Agur, teaching his two students, even if we don’t know their precise relationship. The surprising thing is that the instructor claims to have no wisdom or knowledge or understanding. But this is what qualifies one to be a teacher! What could he possibly mean? In fact, he compares himself to brute beasts, implying that he is not capable of being instructed either. This beastliness was discussed somewhat in Proverbs 12:1. We seem (to me) to have a situation where a teacher, even a wise man, has been brought low. Perhaps he has been made aware of his own moral failures before the face of a holy God, like Isaiah.

“Then said I, Woe is me! for I am undone; because I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell in the midst of a people of unclean lips: for mine eyes have seen the King, the LORD of hosts.” (Isaiah 6:5)

Or perhaps he has been brought low by distressing circumstances, and struggles to understand God’s ways and purposes, like Job. Here is how God responds to Job’s questioning spirit.

"Then the LORD answered Job out of the whirlwind, and said, Who is this that darkeneth counsel by words without knowledge? Gird up now thy loins like a man; for I will demand of thee, and answer thou me. Where wast thou when I laid the foundations of the earth? declare, if thou hast understanding.” (Job 38:1-4)

God goes on for another 65 verses asking Job these “who do you think you are?” and "what do you know?” kinds of questions (very similar to Proverbs 30:4) and finally concludes with this.

“Shall he that contendeth with the Almighty instruct him? he that reproveth God, let him answer it.” (Job 40:2)

And Job answers in a manner similar to Isaiah.

“Then Job answered the LORD, and said, Behold, I am vile; what shall I answer thee? I will lay mine hand upon my mouth. Once have I spoken; but I will not answer: yea, twice; but I will proceed no further.” (Job 40:3-5)

There are times when we are brought low due to our sins or circumstances or both, and we are emptied of any sense of our value or worth or that we have anything to show for our time spent on earth. All our hopes and dreams are shattered and the world is crumbling down around us. When that happens we have to do what Agur, Isaiah, Job and David did.

“Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me? hope in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God.” (the text is similar in Psalm 42:5,11 and 43:5)

Many of the Psalms are written this way. The Psalmist begins with distress and complaints and through the process of his praying by the end of the Psalm he is strengthened in his faith and hope in God.

And this is how this helps us in building a Family Legacy. Perhaps you think that none of what has been written on this blog for the past month applies to you. You feel your Family Legacy has been destroyed even to the point that everyone close to you hates you. Do not despair! There still can be a Family Legacy for you. Hope in God! He is the God of covenant promises, of hope and of new beginnings, because he is the God of resurrection. He brings life back from the dead by the work of Jesus Christ and the power of the Holy Spirit.

“I had fainted, unless I had believed to see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living.” (Psalm 27:13)

Believe it and act on that belief!

The Family Legacy and Reproof

Proverbs 29:
1. He, that being often reproved hardeneth his neck, shall suddenly be destroyed, and that without remedy.

Here is a good verse for a hell-fire and brimstone preacher, and the examples of the hardened neck and the resultant destruction are many in Scripture. Imagine those outside Noah’s ark, struggling to get in when the waters began to rise, but unable to do so because the door was shut. Or Pharaoh, who with each successive plague, did not repent, but hardened his heart until he was finally drowned in the Red Sea. Or Ahab killed by an arrow drawn at a venture, or Judas Iscariot, who “went to his own place.” Many preachers might like to use these as examples that support this saying:

“The floggings will continue until the attitude improves.”

But I would like to go in a different direction – a direction described by this verse.

“Or despisest thou the riches of his goodness and forbearance and longsuffering; not knowing that the goodness of God leadeth thee to repentance?” (Romans 2:4)

In reality it is the realization and hope of God’s goodness that brings repentance.

There is the story about a Methodist church in the early 19th century whose minister died and they requested of the Bishop a hell-fire and brimstone preacher to replace him. So he sent them one, but he only lasted nine months and left. So the Bishop sent them a second hell-fire and brimstone preacher and in even less time he was asked to leave. So the Bishop sent them a third hell-fire and brimstone preacher and he stayed there 30 years. In the Bishop’s later life he was conversing with one of the older parishioners, and he asked, “Why did you reject the first two preachers but not the third? They were all hell-fire and brimstone preachers.” “Well,” replied the parishioner, “The third preacher preached as though he didn’t want us to go there.”

A striking illustration in Scripture of how the realization and hope of God’s goodness brings repentance is found in the story of Jonah. Jonah ran away from God’s command to preach against Nineveh, was swallowed by a fish, coughed up on shore and then decided to obey God and go to Nineveh and preach against it.

“And Jonah began to enter into the city a day's journey, and he cried, and said, Yet forty days, and Nineveh shall be overthrown.” (Jonah 3:4)

Where is the grace in this preaching? Jonah says in 40 days you will be toast, no ifs, ands or buts. But how did Nineveh respond?

“So the people of Nineveh believed God, and proclaimed a fast, and put on sackcloth, from the greatest of them even to the least of them. And [the king proclaimed], Let neither man nor beast, herd nor flock, taste any thing: let them not feed, nor drink water: But let man and beast be covered with sackcloth, and cry mightily unto God: yea, let them turn every one from his evil way, and from the violence that is in their hands.” (Jonah 3:5,7-8)

Now what made the people of Nineveh think that all this would change anything about Jonah’s prophetic preaching? This is what they thought.

“Who can tell if God will turn and repent, and turn away from his fierce anger, that we perish not?” (Jonah 3:9)

Even though there is no record of grace in Jonah’s preaching, the people of Nineveh dared to believe that God was merciful and compassionate and they responded accordingly with this result.

“And God saw their works, that they turned from their evil way; and God repented of the evil, that he had said that he would do unto them; and he did it not.” (Jonah 3:10)

It is a remarkable thing that the people of Nineveh responded with an expectation of God’s mercy, but many today who name the name of Christ think hard thoughts against God.

So what does this have to do with a Family Legacy? Much every way. The point is not to give license to ministers to preach graceless sermons, but rather to encourage all of us to see God’s grace and goodness in everything.

“Know therefore that the LORD thy God, he is God, the faithful God, which keepeth covenant and mercy with them that love him and keep his commandments to a thousand generations;” (Deuteronomy 7:9)

God is the God of Family Legacies to 1000 generations. Embrace it, labor for it and dare to believe that God will bless you with it.

Building a Lion-Hearted Family Legacy

Proverbs 28:
1. The wicked flee when no man pursueth: but the righteous are bold as a lion.

The story goes that Sir Arthur Conan Doyle claimed he once sent five or so important people a telegram reading "ALL IS DISCOVERED - FLEE AT ONCE." According to Doyle, they all fled the country by the end of the week. [I have not been able to verify the truth of this story. A similar story is attributed to Mark Twain. If anyone can help confirm this, please let me know.]

The above story, even if not true, is funny and illustrates at least the first half of this proverb. This is what happens when the conscience brings guilt to people by applying the work of the law written on their heart.

“For when the Gentiles, which have not the law, do by nature the things contained in the law, these, having not the law, are a law unto themselves: Which shew the work of the law written in their hearts, their conscience also bearing witness, and their thoughts the mean while accusing or else excusing one another;)” (Romans 2:14-15)

Now it is important to note a distinction. All men have "the work of the law” written on their hearts – which we call the conscience. But some have more – they have the law written in their heart.” There is an importance difference.

“For this is the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel after those days, saith the Lord; I will put my laws into their mind, and write them in their hearts: and I will be to them a God, and they shall be to me a people:” (Hebrews 8:10)

These are those who have been joined to Jesus Christ by faith. Now are these who have the law written in their heart the same as the righteous in the last half of the proverb? Unfortunately – No. How can that be? It happens because not everyone who has been joined to Jesus Christ by faith always lives with a clear conscience and blameless life. Does this mean that we have to attain sinless perfection to be the righteousness and have the resultant boldness described in this proverb? No. The simplest way to describe what is required is found here.

“And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge; And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness; And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity. For if these things be in you, and abound, they make you that ye shall neither be barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. But he that lacketh these things is blind, and cannot see afar off, and hath forgotten that he was purged from his old sins. Wherefore the rather, brethren, give diligence to make your calling and election sure: for if ye do these things, ye shall never fall: For so an entrance shall be ministered unto you abundantly into the everlasting kingdom of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.” (2 Peter 1:5-11)

Now you can see that the person who is joined to Jesus Christ by faith has much that needs to be added to that faith for him to attain the righteousness, assurance and boldness described in this proverb. And this is a perfect process outlined and goal identified for every one to pursue in building a thriving, robust and lion-hearted Family Legacy.

The Family Legacy and Mortality

Proverbs 27:
1. Boast not thyself of to morrow; for thou knowest not what a day may bring forth.

An insightful variation of this verse goes like this.

“It is better to boast when you are taking your armor off, than when you are putting it on.”

The insight is not that in some circumstances it is okay to boast but rather that boasting always has the future in view. Even when one boasts about past exploits, it is always with the intent of, "Watch what I'll do next." "Has beens" don't boast in this sense, they reminisce - "those were the days."

James quotes this verse in his letter and provides a helpful application and commentary.

“Go to now, ye that say, To day or to morrow we will go into such a city, and continue there a year, and buy and sell, and get gain: Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away. For that ye ought to say, If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this, or that. But now ye rejoice in your boastings: all such rejoicing is evil.” (James 4:13-14)

There are three important points to be discussed here. The first one is boasting. This is a person who is full of himself. He feels invincible, in total control and that nothing can go wrong or stop with his plans. His thinking makes him arrogant and this attitude is at the root of all boasting.

The second important point is the future. This is what he boasts about, what he will do in the future. Many people, to caution themselves about boasting about their knowledge of the future will, add this phrase to what they say, “If the Lord will, I will do this or that . . .” They seem to think that they will be doing something tomorrow. They plan A, but if that is not in God’s will then they will do something else - whatever God plans. But the real emphasis in this verse is a little different. It is, “If the Lord will, I will live . . .” The emphasis is on whether there will be a tomorrow for them at all, not on what they will be doing. The person speaking assumes he will be alive. God says he assumes too much.

The third point is that we are mortal and life is uncertain and brief. The older you get the shorter 70 to 80 years seems to be. We will all die and we do not know when. It is important for us to always be aware of this.

“It is better to go to the house of mourning, than to go to the house of feasting: for that is the end of all men; and the living will lay it to his heart.” (Ecclesiastes 7:2)

This is especially important for young people who tend to be blissfully unaware of their own mortality and therefore do foolish things.

“Rejoice, O young man, in thy youth; and let thy heart cheer thee in the days of thy youth, and walk in the ways of thine heart, and in the sight of thine eyes: but know thou, that for all these things God will bring thee into judgment.” (Ecclesiastes 11:9)

“And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment:” (Hebrews 9:27)

Now the point of this proverb is not to be morbid, but to be realistic. This realism should produce thankfulness and rejoicing in every day and all the gifts that God gives us.

“This is the day which the LORD hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it.” (Psalm 118:24)

“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.” (James 1:17)

This proverb becomes a wake-up call for building a Family Legacy. We will not live forever, in fact our lives are very short. Therefore we need to be diligent in raising our children to carry on a Family Legacy whose priority is the building the kingdom of God.

“See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.” (Ephesians 5:15-16)

A Family Legacy is an Honorable Reward

Proverbs 26:
1. As snow in summer, and as rain in harvest, so honour is not seemly for a fool.

After the Great Noahic Flood God gave this promise to Noah and set the rainbow in the sky as a token of his covenant.

“While the earth remaineth, seedtime and harvest, and cold and heat, and summer and winter, and day and night shall not cease.” (Genesis 8:22)

We all notice that snow in summer and rain in the fall is uncommon and not what we expect. Because of the regularity of the seasons we plan our work around them and the productivity of our crops depends on hot sunny summers with rain at the right time and dryness in the fall so that crops can be harvested. Deviations from these cycles tend to reduce the crop yield. It is detrimental to our prosperity.

It is very similar with the fool. We don’t expect him to be honored. Also, a fool can be detrimental to our prosperity. If we want a job done well we don’t ask a fool to do it.

“The labour of the foolish wearieth every one of them, because he knoweth not how to go to the city.” (Ecclesiates 10:15)

It is a painful and exhausting experience to depend on a fool to complete a task when he is clueless.

As vinegar to the teeth, and as smoke to the eyes, so is the sluggard to them that send him.” (Proverbs 10:26)

But more and more we see this kind of incompetence everywhere, even in high places. When people who have accomplished nothing exceptional are given honor, or worse, when they receive the honor through fraud, everyone scornfully notices the inappropriateness. This misappropriation of honor is partly due to a false view of self-image and self-esteem that teaches we should be rewarded just because we exist. The Scripture does teach the principle of rejoicing in ones self, but it is based on proving ones own work.

“For if a man think himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceiveth himself. But let every man prove his own work, and then shall he have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another.” (Galatians 6:3-4)

When we honor foolishness we cause the foolish to think they’re hot stuff and we get more of the kind of behavior we reward.

On the other hand some people think the humble approach is to not desire rewards, but one of the important characteristics of faith is that it pursues and expects a reward.

“But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.” (Hebrews 11:6)

In fact, God would be unrighteous if he did not reward us.

“For God is not unrighteous to forget your work and labour of love, which ye have shewed toward his name, in that ye have ministered to the saints, and do minister.” (Hebrews 6:10)

Now many people get confused and think that if God rewards us according to our works then we must earn and merit those rewards. No, that is not true. While there is a relationship between our rewards and our faithfulness in what we do, that relationship is not one of merit. Whatever rewards we receive are a gracious gift from God.

“For who maketh thee to differ from another? and what hast thou that thou didst not receive? now if thou didst receive it, why dost thou glory, as if thou hadst not received it?” (1 Corinthians 4:7)

Therefore while we strive and sweat and work and we can rejoice in our work, yet the glory goes to God who is working in and through us.

“Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.” (Philippians 2:12-13)

And how does this apply to a Family Legacy? Simply this. A Family Legacy is an honorable thing, but it is the result of the application of wisdom and diligence with perseverance carried forward by hope and the expectation of reward.

A Family Legacy Stands on Wisdom’s Shoulders

Proverbs 25:
1. These are also proverbs of Solomon, which the men of Hezekiah king of Judah copied out.

Here is what appears to be only a historical statement. Can we gain any insight from it concerning an enduring Family Legacy? Yes we can. Hezekiah was a descendent of Solomon. Solomon’s proverbs were part of his legacy to Hezekiah, but many of these proverbs, beginning in this chapter, were not made available to the people until almost 300 years later under Hezekiah. In fact, Hezekiah was responsible for a major reformation in Judah after his wicked father, Ahaz, died.

“Now . . . Hezekiah the son of Ahaz king of Judah . . . Twenty and five years old was he when he began to reign . . . And he did that which was right in the sight of the LORD, according to all that David his father did. He removed the high places, and brake the images, and cut down the groves, and brake in pieces the brasen serpent that Moses had made: for unto those days the children of Israel did burn incense to it . . . He trusted in the LORD God of Israel; so that after him was none like him among all the kings of Judah, nor any that were before him. For he clave to the LORD, and departed not from following him, but kept his commandments, which the LORD commanded Moses. And the LORD was with him; and he prospered whithersoever he went forth:” (2 Kings 18:1-7a)

Hezekiah’s reformation was based on restoring and obeying the Word of God. This is why it was important to him to make these proverbs of Solomon known. Perhaps you have heard that a midget can see farther than a giant when he stands on the shoulders of the giant. Even so we can see farther than our fathers when we stand on their shoulders. But what do we do when our fathers are not godly, as in Hezekiah’s case? We must stand on the word of God like Hezekiah. But what do we do when we have a godly father like David? We must still stand on the word of God and not our father’s wisdom. Here is what David himself said.

“I have more understanding than all my teachers: for thy testimonies are my meditation.” (Psalm 119:99)

Does this mean David disregarded the teaching of his father and teachers? No. But if they were wise teachers they directed him to God’s word, just like Solomon did.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” (Ecclesiastes 12:13)

So here is the foundation for a continuing Family Legacy. We must stand on the shoulders of God’s Wisdom, His Word.

Family Legacy for the Long Haul

Proverbs 24:
1. Be not thou envious against evil men, neither desire to be with them.
2. For their heart studieth destruction, and their lips talk of mischief.

This verse discusses what our attitudes should not be toward evil men and why that is so. Notice that the first exhortation is to not be envious against them. It doesn’t say don’t be envious towards them. To understand the difference, we must understand what envy is. It is not the same as jealousy or covetousness.

Envy “suggests a grudging of another’s possessions and accomplishments in a spiteful or malicious coveting of them.” [Webster’s Seventh New Collegiate Dictionary]

When we envy the wicked we harbor an element of spite and malice against them. For example, a wicked person may be rich and own a fancy BMW car. We would like a car like that but we can’t afford it and we secretly delight when their car is damaged. We want it but we can’t have it and so we wish that it’s taken away from them also. That’s what malice is. It is to wish evil on someone else, even the wicked. This is what is forbidden.

“Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy. But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;” (Matthew 5:43-44)

Many think this is only a New Testament command, but it was true in the Old Testament, too.

“If thou see the ass of him that hateth thee lying under his burden, and wouldest forbear to help him, thou shalt surely help with him.” (Exodus 23:5)

Now while we should help the wicked (not in committing their wickedness), yet we should not associate with them in a manner where we learn their wicked ways. This is what the last half of verse one says.

Verse two says more than don’t be around them because you will pick up their wicked ways. Yes they plan to do destructive things, but there is a basic principle that follows.

“My son, walk not thou in the way with them; refrain thy foot from their path: For their feet run to evil, and make haste to shed blood. Surely in vain the net is spread in the sight of any bird. And they lay wait for their own blood; they lurk privily for their own lives. So are the ways of every one that is greedy of gain; which taketh away the life of the owners thereof.” (Proverbs 1:15-19)

Those who devise destruction for others are really devising their own destruction. They will fall in the pit they dig for others. We live in a moral universe where God is in control. Do not fret about the wicked. God will judge them in His own good time. This is how we are to trust God.

“Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.” (Romans 12:19-21)

Remember, we ARE in the business of overcoming evil and not letting it pass, but we overcome evil with good. This is what your Family Legacy is all about – overcoming evil with good through multiple generations. In the long run our heirs will ultimately overcome evil with good and this Scripture will become true:

“For the earth shall be filled with the knowledge of the glory of the LORD, as the waters cover the sea.” (Habakkuk 2:14)

The gospel and the word of God through the Holy Spirit are that powerful!

Your Family Has Your Best Interest at Heart

Proverbs 23:
1. When thou sittest to eat with a ruler, consider diligently what is before thee:
2. And put a knife to thy throat, if thou be a man given to appetite.
3. Be not desirous of his dainties: for they are deceitful meat.

Our first impression from reading this might be, “What’s wrong with enjoying a good meal at the invitation of the rich? Why must I impute some evil into the host’s intentions or his food?” Let’s see if we can find the lesson in this text.

First it is obviously an invitation to dine with a rich person who can provide a very fine banquet, even a feast. Because of the circumstances surrounding the invitation we are warned to keep our eyes open and our wits about us. We probably wouldn’t be given the same caution if our neighbor invited us over for a meal. Second, the caution is strengthened if we have a history of and weakness for overindulgence. The knife to the throat statement is just hyperbole to emphasize the risk. Finally, verse three seems to indicate that there is something in the nature of the food, not necessarily in the intent of the host.

I think it is important to note that generally speaking there was no middle class in these ancient societies. There tended to be the common people, and then the wealthy who also exercised some authority as rulers. So now this becomes something like the farm boy on his first trip into the big city. The issue is vulnerability. Or as the saying goes . . .

“It's hard to keep the boy on the farm once he's seen Paris.”

He is at risk of being overwhelmed by the sights and sounds, assume that his host has his best interest in mind and unsuspectingly be drawn into rowdy partying. There are many similar warnings throughout Scripture, one is just a few verses away where the unsuspecting guest is drawn in to be used by the host for his own purposes.

“Eat thou not the bread of him that hath an evil eye, neither desire thou his dainty meats: For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee. The morsel which thou hast eaten shalt thou vomit up, and lose thy sweet words.” (Proverbs 23:6-8)

Food and partying seems to be a common way for those with evil designs to draw in the unsuspecting.

“Incline not my heart to any evil thing, to practice wicked works with men that work iniquity: and let me not eat of their dainties.” (Psalm 141:4)

It appears that the prodigal son was also drawn into this trap and squandered his inheritance.

“And the younger of them said to his father, Father, give me the portion of goods that falleth to me. And he divided unto them his living. And not many days after the younger son gathered all together, and took his journey into a far country, and there wasted his substance with riotous living.” (Luke 15:12-14)

So the lesson to be learned here is not that we can’t enjoy a good meal from rich friends, or that we can’t enjoy feasting with our friends. The warning is to always exercise self discipline and don’t allow your self to come under the influence or control of those who don’t have your best interests at heart. This is the value of working within the context of a Family Legacy. You are surrounded by those who have your best interest at heart and are pulling together for your success and the success of the family.

A Good Name’s Role in a Family Legacy

Proverbs 22:
1. A GOOD name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving favour rather than silver and gold.

This is the third “better than” proverb that we have encountered even though a different phase, “is rather to be chosen,” is used instead. The others were Proverbs 17:1 and 19:1 and all those “better than” comments apply here also.

But having a “good name” and “loving favor” raises different questions. Isn’t it true that Jesus promised a blessing for those who don’t have a good name?

“Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness' sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake. Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you.” (Matthew 5:10-12)

There are some who are persecuted because they are obnoxious and they rejoice because they think this promised blessing is for them. But is it? Peter writes about these fine distinctions.

“If ye be reproached for the name of Christ, happy are ye; for the spirit of glory and of God resteth upon you: on their part he is evil spoken of, but on your part he is glorified. But let none of you suffer as a murderer, or as a thief, or as an evildoer, or as a busybody in other men's matters. Yet if any man suffer as a Christian, let him not be ashamed; but let him glorify God on this behalf.” (1 Peter 4:14-16)

It is one thing if you are a Christian who is full of good works and the world hates you for that (and there are people that hate like that). It is another thing if you are a Christian and you are always meddling in other people’s business instead of minding your own. Generally speaking, because there is still a lot of common grace in our culture, people recognize good works and praise them. This was even true 2000 years ago in Peter’s time.

“And who is he that will harm you, if ye be followers of that which is good?” (1 Peter 3:13)

Peter, recognizing that this is true, gives this Biblical counsel as the means to live the good life.

“For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it. For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil.” (1 Peter 3:10-12)

This is the good name and loving favor that is being promoted in our proverb for today. And this same thing was true of Jesus also.

“And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favour with God and man.” (Luke 2:52)

So here was Jesus as a child and young man with a good name and loving favor. Later, when Jesus became a man and started preaching this all changed so that this prophecy was fulfilled.

“He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not.” (Isaiah 53:3)

What happened? After Jesus was baptized/anointed he entered his formal ministry as the Christ (the Anointed One) and began preaching against sin. (Jesus did not do this before his baptism.) Then this verse became true.

“Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution.” (2 Timothy 3:12)

But while this is true Jesus assures us with this hope.

“These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)

Why should this give us peace? Is it because evil is so strong that it will win but we will die and go to heaven so who cares anyway? No. It is because Jesus has overcome and he has prepared the way for us to overcome the world also through faith.

“For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world: and this is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith.” (1 John 5:4)

You see we are here to overcome evil, not to allow it to win the day.

“Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.” (Romans 12:21)

And this is why a good name and loving favor is so important in establishing a Family Legacy.

Family Legacy Succeeds with God’s Kingdom

Proverbs 21:
1. The king's heart is in the hand of the LORD, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will.

First we need to clarify the analogy being used here. The “rivers of water” in the text does not refer to meandering rivers where the random course of the river is determined by the water naturally seeking the path of least resistance. The NIV translates this phrase as “watercourses.” The picture is one of irrigation ditches that are directed by design to deliver the water where it needs to be. The water still obeys the laws of physics and runs down hill, but the property of the water, the free volition of the heart of the king, is used to fulfill God’s purposes and is directed by him. This message is very similar to something Paul writes.

“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28)

The intent of these statements is to give us encouragement and hope. It may appear to us that powerful forces oppose us and even seek to destroy us, but the Scriptures say . . ..

“What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us? He that spared not his own Son, but delivered him up for us all, how shall he not with him also freely give us all things? Who shall lay any thing to the charge of God's elect? It is God that justifieth. Who is he that condemneth? It is Christ that died, yea rather, that is risen again, who is even at the right hand of God, who also maketh intercession for us. Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 8:31-39)

If God controls the heart and therefore the actions of the most powerful people, then don’t you think that he also controls the hearts and actions of those little people who trouble you? It is precisely because God is in control of all things that we can go to him in prayer with our concerns and our needs. This is why we pray for high public officials.

“I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks, be made for all men; For kings, and for all that are in authority; that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty. For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Saviour;” (1 Timothy 2:1-3)

And we are taught to pray for our daily bread in the Lord’s Prayer. God desires us to bring all our needs to him and he delights to fulfill them.

“Or what man is there of you, whom if his son ask bread, will he give him a stone? Or if he ask a fish, will he give him a serpent? If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?” (Matthew 7:9-11)

But when does God answer these prayers? God answers them when we are seeking his kingdom first. Therefore, the surest way for your Family Legacy to be successful is for it to be hitched to your pursuit of God’s kingdom and his glory -- because "we are more than conquerers through him that loved us!"

Focus and Vision for Family Legacy Success

Proverbs 20:
1. Wine is a mocker, strong drink is raging: and whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise.

As we have noticed, the Book of Proverbs is all about being wise and doing the wise thing. Here it warns against an unwise act, that of being deceived by alcoholic beverages. So does this mean that any drinking of alcoholic beverages is being deceived by them? I don't think so because then Wisdom itself would be engaged in and be encouraging unwise things.

“Wisdom hath builded her house, she hath hewn out her seven pillars: She hath killed her beasts; she hath mingled her wine; she hath also furnished her table. Come, eat of my bread, and drink of the wine which I have mingled.” (Proverbs 9:1-2,5)

Here Wisdom herself mingles wine and encourages others to drink it – and the Hebrew word for wine here is the same word used in Proverbs 20:1. Therefore this deception must mean becoming drunk, and this is condemned everywhere in the Scriptures.

But if we get caught up in the alcohol debate we will miss out on the important teaching of this verse. While the verse speaks specifically of alcohol here, it can be applied to many similar circumstances that can be summarized with these verses.

“All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.” (1 Corinthians 6:12)

“All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but all things edify not.” (1 Corinthians 10:23)

While it is true that the fact that something is lawful means that you cannot prohibit nor bind the conscience of another from doing it (unless it is within your authority to do so). Yet the fact that something is lawful does not mean it is the best thing to do. But how do we determine expediency? It seems so personal and subjective. Here is the Scriptural directive for determining what is expedient.

“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” (Matthew 6:33)

Seeking the success of God’s kingdom is our number one priority around which we are to order everything else in our lives. Jesus did this even in how he taught us to pray.

“After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.” (Matthew 6:9-10)

Setting this priority for all our actions extends even to our most common and insignificant activities.

“Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.” (1 Corinthians 10:31)

And what happens when we glorify God in everything we do?

“Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid. Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.” (Matthew 5:14-16)

As we seek to glorify God in all that we do, others see those works for what they are and also glorify God. How do they glorify God? – by doing good works too! God is only glorified by words when they are reflected in actions.

This is what this verse has to do with building a Family Legacy. The way to keep from being tripped up and derailed by activities and addictions that cloud our reason, destroy our character, or just plain waste time, is to keep focused on glorifying God in everything we do and to be focused on the vision of building His kingdom. Building a lasting Family Legacy cannot be successful without this!

A Family Legacy Up from Poverty

Proverbs 19:
1. Better is the poor that walketh in his integrity, than he that is perverse in his lips, and is a fool.

This is the second “better than” proverb that we have encountered. The first one was two days ago, Proverbs 17:1, and all those “better than” comments apply here also. But even with those explanations we still wonder to ourselves, “How can the person of integrity be poor when we read this in Proverbs 10:22?

“The blessing of the LORD, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it.”

Why isn’t the Lord blessing him? It is all a matter of timing. Do you remember the story of Joseph (Genesis 37) and how his brothers sold him into Egypt as a slave? What happened to him? Although he was a slave, because of his integrity he soon became the chief steward in his master’s household! Then, also because of his integrity, he was falsely accused and thrown into prison. Finally, still because of his integrity, he was released from prison and elevated to the second most powerful position in Egypt! Joseph is an example of the importance of integrity in the circumstances of poverty and how both of these proverbs are true. Integrity is a necessary character trait for overcoming poverty.

Job would be another example of this. Job was . . .

“. . . the greatest of all the men of the east.” (Job 1:3)

. . . yet he lost everything, including his health. The one thing Job didn’t lose, however, was his wife, who had this to say about him.

“Then said his wife unto him, Dost thou still retain thine integrity? curse God, and die.” (Job 2:9)

Now Job became very poor, yet even his wife recognized that he was a man of integrity. It seems that this is what frustrated her. She, like many people, concluded that Job’s integrity was worth nothing and she became like the second half of Proverbs 19:1. But that was not the end of the story. After Job’s suffering, which was according to God’s purposes, we read this.

“So the LORD blessed the latter end of Job more than his beginning: for he had fourteen thousand sheep, and six thousand camels, and a thousand yoke of oxen, and a thousand she asses. He had also seven sons and three daughters . . . And in all the land were no women found so fair as the daughters of Job: and their father gave them inheritance among their brethren. After this lived Job an hundred and forty years, and saw his sons, and his sons' sons, even four generations. So Job died, being old and full of days.” (Job 42:12-13,15-17)

James, in his letter, draws our attention to Job’s life as an example to follow.

“Behold, we count them happy which endure. Ye have heard of the patience of Job, and have seen the end of the Lord; that the Lord is very pitiful, and of tender mercy.” (James 5:11)

Do you see how Proverbs 19:1 is not extolling the virtues of poverty, but rather the virtue of integrity, and how integrity is the path out of poverty because the Lord’s blesses it.

“But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.” (James 4:6)

So even though you might find yourself in difficult financial circumstances at this time, don’t be discouraged. Through the faithful exercise of wisdom and integrity God can yet bless you with a Family Legacy, because He is full of pity and of tender mercy.

"But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.” (Isaiah 40:31)

A Family Legacy Builds Relationships

Proverbs 18:
1. Through desire a man, having separated himself, seeketh and intermeddleth with all wisdom.

I will be commenting on the alternate reading in the KJV which is this:

“He that separateth himself seeketh according to his desire, and intermeddleth in every business.”

As you can see the implication of the text changes considerably. The original suggests a focused, serious and studious person who seeks to be alone so he will not be disturbed in his studies and meditations – a seemingly commendable desire! The alternate reading gives the picture of a self-centered loner who is always meddling in the affairs of others. The second reading is similar to those of whom the Apostles’ warned us according to Jude 19.

“How that they told you there should be mockers in the last time, who should walk after their own ungodly lusts. These be they who separate themselves, sensual, having not the Spirit.”

This idea of sensual or natural is enlarged in James 3:14-16.

“But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish. For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.”

The New Testament texts are developing the picture of a man who is not . . .

“Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.” (Ephesians 4:3)

But rather is stirring up all manner of strife and division within the Church.

Now the application in this proverb is broader than that found in the New Testament, although the principle is the same, and can be effectively applied to building a Family Legacy.

The principle is this: building a Family Legacy builds relationships, not loners. A loner tends to be all wrapped up in his own interests, but the Scriptures say to . . .

“Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.” (Philippians 2:4)

A loner can tend to think of himself as better than others and therefore be always critical of their work, but the Scriptures say . . .

“Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.” (Philippians 2:3)

A loner’s relationships are cool and at best civil, but the Scriptures say . . .

“Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;” (Romans 12:10)

Therefore, in building the relationships that create a strong Family Legacy, it is not only important that . . .

“Love worketh no ill to his neighbour:” (Romans 13:10a)

But also this . . .

“Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth:” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8a)

Many mistakes will be made in the process of building a Family Legacy, but they can all be overcome and progress continued when this kind of love is present.

Either/Or vs. Both/And in a Family Legacy

Proverbs 17
1. Better is a dry morsel, and quietness therewith, than an house full of sacrifices with strife.

We will come across many “better than” comparisons in the Book of Proverbs. This is the first one for us. These are often misinterpreted and we shall see how after we explain some of the ideas in this verse.

The reference to sacrifices is an allusion to the Jewish practice of offering part of the sacrifice at the Temple (or Tabernacle) but then taking a portion of it to be eaten at home.

“But if the sacrifice of his offering be a vow, or a voluntary offering, it shall be eaten the same day that he offereth his sacrifice: and on the morrow also the remainder of it shall be eaten: “ (Leviticus 7:16)

“It shall be eaten the same day ye offer it, and on the morrow: and if ought remain until the third day, it shall be burnt in the fire. “ (Leviticus 19:6)

Now poor people offered small sacrifices that they could afford, like turtle doves (yes, birds); but the rich would offer lambs, sheep, goats and cattle – always the best of the flock or herd. Obviously the rich would have a lot of prime meat to take home and eat, and they were expected to enjoy this, to feast upon this meat. It was not to be eaten in somberness. Now we can see that there are two things happening in this proverb. First, these people maintained an appearance of piety and spirituality – they went to church! Second, these people were wealthy – they feasted! Yet there was strife in the midst of that which should have been an advantage and blessing.

Here we start to see the intended “better than” contrast. It is basically saying, “It is better to be poor and good/happy than rich and bad/miserable.” Here is another proverb that is very similar.

“Better is little with the fear of the LORD than great treasure and trouble therewith.” (Proverbs 15:16)

Now this should be obvious to everyone except those who are willing to sell their soul to get rich. Yet it is a trap into which many fall, even those who agree with this proverb.

“But they that will be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and into many foolish and hurtful lusts, which drown men in destruction and perdition. For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. But thou, O man of God, flee these things; and follow after righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, meekness.” (1 Timothy 6:9-11)

The trap and snare into which these people fall is that they lose sight of the “better than” proverb. That is why Paul emphasizes pursuing righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience and meekness.

Now, how is this verse often misinterpreted? Many people can see that quietness is better than strife, but because of the way these are paired, they also conclude that having a little is better than having a lot (poverty is more blessed than riches). But if that is the case then why does Wisdom extol the possession of fine material things as one of her virtues?

“Length of days is in her right hand; and in her left hand riches and honour.” (Proverbs 3:16)

“Riches and honour are with me; yea, durable riches and righteousness. . . That I may cause those that love me to inherit substance; and I will fill their treasures.” (Proverbs 8:18,21)

So here we can create a hierarchy of value combinations.

Best........good/happy and riches
Better.....good/happy and poverty
Bad........bad/miserable and riches
Worst.....bad/miserable and poverty

Now most people, in describing the life they desire, would say yes to the top and no to the bottom choices. But many people, when they look at the middle two choices start to reason, “If I can get riches by just a little bit of wrong-doing, then I will straighten up and be righteous and rich after that.” It is exactly that kind of thinking that this proverb is warning against.

So, in building your Family Legacy don’t be afraid of becoming rich, even expect it, just determine that you will do well by doing good.

“The blessing of the LORD, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it.” (Proverbs 10:22)

If the Lord Builds Not the Family Legacy . . .

Proverbs 16
1. The preparations of the heart in man, and the answer of the tongue, is from the LORD.

We like to think that we are in control of who we are, how we think and what we say. Sometimes this thinking comes across like this: “Thanks God, but I’ll do it myself.” (or, to be more pointed) “I don’t need you, God.” We believe there is a God, but we want to live as though He does not exist. This is called practical atheism. And then we come across a verse like this and we wonder, “Is it true?” The truth is that while we act freely, we are not autonomous or independent from God. God is present in everything we do.

“For in him [in God] we live, and move, and have our being . . .” (Acts 17:28a)

This is just a fact based on the creature/Creator distinction. There is one God, and we are not Him. We are His creation. This understanding is important in every day life because it reminds us that we live in dependence on God.

“Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” (Proverbs 3:5-6)

God controls not only what we say and do but what we think and what our heart desires. Look at what happened to Lydia.

“And a certain woman named Lydia, a seller of purple, of the city of Thyatira, which worshipped God, heard us: whose heart the Lord opened, that she attended unto the things which were spoken of Paul.” (Acts16:14)

God opened Lydia’s heart so that she could understand and act on what Paul was saying.

Now does this mean that we have no freedom in our actions or responsibility for what we do? No.

“Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.” (Phil 2:12-13)

Even though we are responsible to freely work out our own salvation, yet the result is from God working in us those very things He requires. Paul also wrote something similar in Ephesians 2:8-10.

“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that [faith] not of yourselves: it [faith] is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast. For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.”

We are God’s workmanship in Jesus Christ. That is why Jesus could say.

“I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.” (John 15:5)

But the opposite is also true.

“I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” (Philippians 4:13)

Because God controls all things and because Jesus empowers us we can have confidence in the future.

“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28)

And this confidence in the future allows us to do our work with encouragement and hope.

“Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord.” (1 Corinthians 15:58)

Now you should begin to see how this applies to building a Family Legacy.

“Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.” (Psalm 127:1)

In other words we must actively seek through prayer God’s help in building our Family Legacy, and he will give it.

“Ask, and it shall be given you. . .” (Matthew 7:7a)